Do you dream of having time to clear your head and get away, even for a little while? But then you immediately think about all the things you need to do:
Family | Work | Home Projects
We’ve all been there, trying to please everyone and get everything done without letting things fall through the cracks. But are you so overwhelmed that you feel as though you will never get off the treadmill of life? And if you do disembark from the “everyday,” things will fall apart, and at least one person will be unhappy.
If this is you, it’s time to change your mindset and think about WHY you feel guilty about taking time for yourself. When you think about allowing yourself to reach the point of overload and on the road to burnout, wouldn’t you be “dropping at least one ball” anyway if your health (mentally and physically) suffers?
And at that point, are you the person you want to be for your family and coworkers?
It’s time to think about why you shame yourself, especially when you feel jealous of those who take that time for self-care. When contemplating taking an hour for yourself and that guilt rushes over you, ask yourself why.
Wouldn’t a time out regularly give you time to clear your head and do something you enjoy?
Is this new thought pattern scary? Start slowly and begin building “me time” into your schedule. It may mean getting up early when things are quiet or breaking the habit of eating lunch at your desk and taking it outside or to a quiet room to read while you eat.
The Word NO
Learn How to Use That Word Nicely
Do you have a friend who can’t make decisions without your input? Be honest and let them know you care about their needs but are practicing self-care so that you can be a better person.
Once you’ve used the word no, do your best to push away the guilt. Instead, think about how refreshed you will be for those who need you.
Check out our previous blog: Learn the Art of Saying NO.
Your New Freedom
Test it Out
Put down the phone and set it to “Do not disturb.” On most phones, you can choose people to allow to get through, but before that, have a conversation to let them know about your downtime.
Downtime doesn’t necessarily mean you need to sit still.
- Learn a new skill or language
- Exercise – which is great for you physically and mentally
- Get your nails done – you’ll feel better about yourself
If someone pressures you to help with something, be HONEST and explain that you need to commit yourself. It’s most likely they will understand and may even relate.